I would really like to hear your thoughts on how we could garner the attention of the lawmakers who have raised adoption to such a positive level that criticism is seldom tolerated. In my opinion, that’s the hurdle that needs to be cleared in order to give first mothers the voice needed to jumpstart change.

I like to believe that in our situation, Snuggle Bug’s birthmother made an informed decision based on reasons that she felt were strongly valid to her, that she made her decision without coercion and that, as it stands right now, she does not regret her decision. At least that’s what she’s telling us and, of course, I want to believe her.

We have a semi-open adoption arrangement because she and I both felt it important that she deserved the right to know how her child is doing throughout the years. It’s also to benefit Snuggle Bug so that if/when he decides he’d like to meet her and/or his birthfather, we’d have the information and the connections to assist him with that. We have a great amount of respect for Snuggle Bug’s birth mother and we do everything in our power to honor her by treating her with the respect that she deserves.

I can’t agree with all that you’re saying in these posts, but I know that we view adoption from totally different perspectives and I respect you for standing behind your beliefs. I do appreciate that you’re expressing your views in such a manner so as not to tear down all adoptive parents as I’ve seen happen in the past.

Just know, that I will continue to read and learn from your posts. Thank you for sharing!

I know it’s a lot of reading… But I do wish you would read more in my site… or read some of the blogs written by other’s who I have links for. These links are not complete by a long shot, I try to add at least one link a day to my site. There are so many people who have a lot of very important things to say about adoptions. I would recommend to anyone that is considering adoption from any side, to read what the adopted adults have to say.

Let me just ask you one question: Do you believe that God gave us free will? Yes, I do believe that anyone who ask God to guide them to His will and are truly open to His will, will be granted that. But if we are given “free will” and we, as imperfect humans choose to interfere with what God has planned, then how can we now say it is His will?

I plan to adopt some more kids just because my sons asked me to. How will I get them, I do not know because I refuse to do the adoption fair thing. I would end up taking as many kids as they would allow me to have, just because I would take anyone who looked at me like they wanted to come home with me. I know that God will work that part of it out for me because He said He would. That is what I am banking on. If it is a picture, a pass in the hallway, a kid my sons know already (my 11 year old asked me to adopt his friend from school and I was all for it, but the little boy was already going through the adoption process with someone else_ I prayed about it and knew he was where he was suppose to be- I loved that kid though-he is a little angel!!), I don’t know that part of it, but I know that God has already laid the process in which I will find the child or children I am to adopt.

I have a friend who is still angry that his bio mom gave him up. He cannot see how she could. He cannot see her doing it out of love and sacrifice for him. He sees her not wanting him. He is 38 and still deals with this on the daily. His arm says “Born alone to die alone” and he means that from the heart. It saddens me because he does not see pass that. He had great parents that raised them and he is grateful for that but his bio mom is still in his mind everyday. It shows in his relationships because he refuses to get close to anyone because he thinks, “if my mom could leave me, why would a woman stay?” Which is the same argumentt many young girls have about their dads and the men later they bring into their life. With that pre programmed, where is room for a healthy relationship? There is none. Not without a serious look inwards and a plea for help. When do they get that help? After they are pregnant? After they hit the girlfriend or wive and have to go to court appointed anger management classes? We are talking about adoption, but in reality, we are talking about the 80% in one school in foster care (out of the 25 kids in my sons class, him and 3 other kids are NOT foster kids-this is a problem).

Ok, I have went to a whole different subject but as I write, I am lead to make certain points and share my thoughts. So now I have shared them with you. You can check out my blogspot at fromoneperspective.blogspot.com–I will copy this comment to my page as well. Thanks for your insight and listening to mine.